You are not sure you want to do couple’s therapy, but you do know you want to connect better. You want to stop arguing about the unnecessary, day-to-day stuff, and if you do fight, you want to resolve it quickly, not have it escalate into something bigger. My “Hold Me Tight”® Relationship Enhancement Workshops are designed to do just that.
“We were on the brink of divorce…I almost cannot believe how incredibly effective this was in solving our communication breakdown. It taught us to see each other’s hidden messages and needs underneath the anger, resentment, and distance that had developed. I am walking away with a powerful toolbox to tackle any problems or communication breakdowns we may have in the future.” — Jennifer, Hold Me Tight attendee, 2018
With “Hold Me Tight”®, Make Change Over a Weekend
This Workshop is designed to be intense and effective. Over one weekend, we will meet over 15 hours–the equivalent of over 3 months of weekly therapy sessions. Due to the fast learning curve, the weekend structure of this Workshop is ideal for those couples:
- with busy schedules
- needing to see change quickly
- who are hurting so badly, this is ‘a last resort’
- wanting a cost-effective option to traditional weekly sessions
you will learn tools to help
- Hear and be heard by each other; communicate from a place of compassion, not anger
- Identify your conflict pattern to change it and then the result
- Communicate to avoid defenses and keep your partner emotionally close
- Apologize in a manner so your partner forgives past hurts
- Connect with your partner in a deep and authentic manner like you may never have before
“hold me tight” workshops are not all the same
As these Workshops have successfully helped hundreds of couples, more professionals are interested in providing this service. Options are good; it’s just about picking the best dates and location, right?
Mmmm…..no. “Hold Me Tight”® Workshops are not all the same, even if they have the same name.
Confused? I would be. Click here for a list of questions to consider in deciding which Workshop is best for you.
Upcoming Weekend Workshop Dates:
- March 23-24, 2019 (Sat. 9-5, Sun. 9-4)
Dates don’t work for you?
Consider Couple’s Retreats. They have dates set around your schedule.
What you receive during and after the workshop
- 15 hours of interactive and engaging instruction
- Safely structured conversations to practice with your partner, away from other couples
- Individualized coaching during the conversations to address your specific relationship issues
- Shared learning (so you realize you are not alone in this!)
- Light snacks throughout the day
- Workbook with exercises to take home with you
- Follow-up 30 minute video session to check-in and provide further support
- Summary of my observations and recommendations sent to your therapist(s)
- Exclusive access to Couples Coaching sessions to address issues after the Workshop
“Hold Me Tight”® Workshops are not group therapy
When people hear about a therapist leading a workshop they generally assume it’s group therapy. I know I would not want to talk about my personal problems in front of other couples, so I would never expect that of you. So how is this Workshop different?
During this Workshop, I work with you as a teacher and relationship coach, focusing on strengthening connections and communication techniques. Even though you will be with up to 4 other couples during the lecture portions, you do not share anything with other participants (unless you want to). You and your partner engage in conversations separately from the others and I work with each couple individually, coaching you to communicate successfully.
Based on Research
The “Hold Me Tight”® Workshop was developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and is designed around seven conversations based on the Hold Me Tight book, all of which have been shown to be essential to successful relations.
The “Hold Me Tight”® Workshop is based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), one of the most successful couples therapy models, designed by Dr. Sue Johnson. Couples in EFT therapy experience a 75% success rate in turning a marriage from distress to a secure relationship and a 90% success rate in bringing about meaningful change.
“My wife and I were at a standstill; plagued by negative behaviors. After 2 days, I really feel like we’re in a much better place, feeling connected and understood and heard…something we’ve looked for for a long time. We’ve been given the tools to reconcile and improve, which I’m thankful for. Now, it’s on us to do the work.” — Mark, Hold Me Tight attendee, 2018
the cost: Your investment in your relationship
This Workshop costs $495 per couple. People get apprehensive to commit a weekend or $495 to a workshop. Below is a side-by-side comparison of my “Hold Me Tight”® Workshop and traditional weekly couples therapy.
|Hold Me Tight® Workshop (Out-of-Pocket)||vs.||Weekly Couples Therapy (Out-of-Pocket)|
|15 hours focused directly on your relationship’s connection and practicing honest communication||Treatment-Focus||15 weekly appointments focused on whatever is brought up by the couple from the past week|
|1 Weekend (15 hours)
at $495 a weekend
|Cost||15 Sessions (3 ¾ months)
at $125 a session
|1 weekend = $495||Total||3 ¾ months = $1875|
Some couples consider using their insurance for traditional weekly couples therapy, as they think it will cost less. In fact, 15 hours of traditional therapy with a $30 co-pay equals $450 and takes almost 4 months. With traditional weekly therapy, your progress is disrupted on a weekly basis by additional conflicts and scheduling difficulties. The “Hold Me Tight”® Workshop is a similar cost and all your work is condensed into one weekend.
I get it; this is an investment of your time and money. I know from experience, though, that this Workshop is a more effective use of your time and money than traditional weekly couples therapy.
afterwards: Optional Follow-up services
The Workshop consistently transforms couples’ relationships over the two days. Due to that, couples often do not need weekly therapy sessions afterwards. A few might want traditional couples therapy as a follow-up, due the complexity or damage of their situation. Others want a bit more practice using the tools.
Couples Coaching is an exclusive service I offer to participants that have completed a Workshop or Retreat with me. These are 30-minute online video sessions aimed at enhance and solidify the skills gained from the Workshop. This option is always yours, whether you move far away or you feel you have forgotten some of your skills.
“My husband and I each had a lot of unresolved pain. We love each other and desperately wanted to be there for each other, but felt like we were on separate islands and couldn’t reach each other…Leaving this weekend, my husband and I are so much more connected than I think we’ve ever been. So much pain has been healed and we’re able to focus on the great love that we’ve always known was there. I’m so thankful that we did this.” — Laurie, Hold Me Tight attendee, 2018
Where is the Workshop held? It is held at my therapy space located in my home in East Forest Park, Springfield, Massachusetts. These photos will show you what the space looks like, inside and outside.
It is held at my therapy space located in my home in East Forest Park, Springfield, Massachusetts. These photos will show you what the space looks like, inside and outside.
The Workshop is at a house and not a conference center? Yes. My office is located in the East Forest Park area of Springfield. We meet as a group in a beautifully decorated space and access the well-landscaped yard during good weather for the private conversations and during breaks. We divide into cozy spaces indoors when the weather is bad. Participants report preferring this setting to a conference center, as it’s comfortable and ‘homey’ versus being clinical or sterile.
Yes. My office is located in the East Forest Park area of Springfield. We meet as a group in a beautifully decorated space and access the well-landscaped yard during good weather for the private conversations and during breaks. We divide into cozy spaces indoors when the weather is bad. Participants report preferring this setting to a conference center, as it’s comfortable and ‘homey’ versus being clinical or sterile.
How much is the Workshop? The Workshop fee is $495 per couple ($247 per person).
The Workshop fee is $495 per couple ($247 per person).
What is included with the fee?
Are there different payment options? Yes. Contact me if you want to attend the Workshop but need to explore your options.
Yes. Contact me if you want to attend the Workshop but need to explore your options.
I am still confused, how are our conversations are kept private? A more detailed description of what parts of the day are shared with other couples versus private described here.
A more detailed description of what parts of the day are shared with other couples versus private described here.
Will our insurance pay for this? No. This Workshop is not therapy, so your insurance will not cover it. I realize this is a significant financial investment; I encourage you to remember the comparable cost and significant time savings this Workshop provides compared to traditional weekly couples therapy.
No. This Workshop is not therapy, so your insurance will not cover it. I realize this is a significant financial investment; I encourage you to remember the comparable cost and significant time savings this Workshop provides compared to traditional weekly couples therapy.
We can't attend any of the dates for the Workshop! Is there anything else?
Is help available if we are still struggling after the Workshop? Yes. Most couples feel confident with the tools they have learned and gains made so they do not seek additional therapy. Nonetheless, if weeks or months later, you want support, you are encouraged to contact me. We will decide if traditional couples therapy or Couples Coaching is the best option. Either way, I am always here for you.
Yes. Most couples feel confident with the tools they have learned and gains made so they do not seek additional therapy. Nonetheless, if weeks or months later, you want support, you are encouraged to contact me. We will decide if traditional couples therapy or Couples Coaching is the best option. Either way, I am always here for you.
“This workshop isn’t just for troubled relationships; it can be very helpful to couples who know they have been hurt by past relationships and who don’t want to continue to make the same mistakes but don’t know how to stop the cycle…We have gained knowledge about one another and we feel more confident about our relationship and our future together.” — Chris, Hold Me Tight attendee, 2018
Your time is valuable—your relationship is precious.
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