Common Questions

Does going to therapy mean I am weak or flawed?

No.  This is the most commonly asked question I hear.  When you are stressed about things, you would typically call a friend or family member (or you wish you could), right? 

It’s basic human nature to explore these things and search for answers.  You are not weak or flawed if you talk with another person to get a different perspective or develop strategies, and it’s not weak or flawed to do so with a therapist.  When you address your concerns with a therapist, you get the benefits of having an unbiased, trained person who will keep your information private and has no agenda other than helping you.

How do I know if you are a good therapist for me?

Read about me on this website (including reading my ‘About Me’ page).  Because I created this site, it really helps you know how I think and express myself. 

Listen to your body as you are reading through this website; does it feel like I ‘get’ you?  Does it seem like I may know you or situations like yours even before we have met?  If yes, then I encourage you to schedule a free consultation with me. 

During the consultation, you will get to know me more completely and can ask questions about my work and how I would help you in your situation specifically.  If you feel comfortable with me and confident of the work we will do, then I am a good therapist for you!

How long does individual therapy take?

Every person and issue is different, so it is not possible to say exactly how long your treatment will take.  That being said, I have clients who see me short-term, for an average of 16 weeks and I see others who are wanting to do deeper, longer term work and I have seen them for over a year.  So it’s about your goals and what makes clinical sense for your needs.

Medication is easier and cheaper than therapy.  Is therapy really worth the investment of time and money?

Yes.  Medication treats the symptoms but does not address the issues behind those symptoms.  Our work together addresses the root of the issue and teaches strategies that can help you accomplish your personal and/or relational goals, so you don’t have to take medication long term.

How much does it cost and do you take insurance?

Seeing a therapist is an investment in yourself and your well-being.  My Fees page addresses your questions about insurance and fees.

Can couples sessions still be helpful if my partner is reluctant to attend?

Yes.  It’s common that partners will have different motivation to attend couples sessions. 

Partners may be apprehensive of being blamed or things getting stirred up while in a session and leaving in more conflict.  Others feel hopeless and discouraged, so don’t have much energy to put into working on the relationship.

No matter what the reason, it’s real and valid that a partner may be reluctant or skeptical to attend.  You each have your own ‘truth’ in your relationship; I understand that and support you both in the process of healing and connecting.

What is the process for starting therapy?

Do exactly what you are doing!  Review websites of therapists you have heard or read about.  Contact those who seem like they MIGHT be a good match for you regarding their specialties and personality. 

It’s helpful to have a consultation with them over the phone or a face-to-face to increase your comfort and help you decide if they are a good match. 

Based on the consultation, determine who you want to schedule with and follow-up with them to set up an appointment.  Therapists have different ‘intake’ processes and will explain their process at that point.

I am wondering if a Couples Retreat in a house will feel professional.  Will it?

Yes.  I have designed the space for privacy, confidentiality, and comfort.  I take my work seriously and created a space that exceeds what a clinical space should contain.  Read more about my space on my Therapy Space page.