Although you know the Workshop is not group therapy, you are still not quite clear what the space looks like or how the days will unfold. The Workshop protocol is designed around learning and practicing the 7 Conversations needed for couples to be successful
Below, the GROUP and PRIVATE portions of the Workshop are described as well as the schedule for both days.
The lecture/video portion is done in a group format. Each topic is covered with a mixture of lecture and video clips so that it’s clear, interesting, and you can relate the information to your own life. Couples sit along side one another in a comfortable space and enjoy the beverages and snacks provided. You may ask questions during this time or respond to the content, but that is not required.
A critical part of this workshop is having Conversations privately with your partner. This is where amazing insights and connections happen. After each lecture/video portion, you have Conversations with your partner, integrating the information and following a structured outline I provide.
Couples will go to separate spaces for these Conversations. If it’s nice weather, couples tend to go outside into my beautifully landscaped space where you can nestle in the wooden swing, relax in Adirondack chairs or settle at the table under the pergola. It’s a large space so privacy is ensured.
If it’s uncomfortable outside, couples go into separate spaces inside. There are three separate rooms with doors and two other rooms that are designed for privacy. Background music and sound machines ensure your Conversations are kept private.
- Slowing you down if you start to engage in unhelpful patterns
- Guiding you through the structured Conversation so you stay on topic
- Ensuring you BOTH feel safe to talk and be heard by the other
Below is the schedule for both days, (note the initials ‘G’ for Group and ‘P’ for Private).
Saturday Agenda (9-5)
||G – Introductions||1:45 PM
||G – Finding Our Raw Spots|
||G – The Science of Love||2:45 PM
||P – Conversation 2|
||P – Assessment and Strengths Exercise||Break (15 min)|
|Break (15 min)||3:30 PM
||G – Revisiting a Rocky Moment|
||G – Recognizing Our Negative Cycles||4:00 PM
||P – Conversation 3|
||P – Conversation 1||4:40 PM
||G – Review
|Lunch (1 hour)||4:50 PM
||P – Positive Sharing
Sunday Agenda (9-4)
||G – Hold Me Tight||2:15 PM||G – Bonding Through Sex and touch
||P – Conversation 4
||2:30 PM||P – Conversation 6
|Break (15 min)
||Break (15 min)|
||G – Forgiving Injuries and Trusting Again
||3:15 PM||G – Keeping Your Love Alive
||P – Conversation 5
||3:30 PM||G – Conversation 7
|Lunch (1 hour)
||3:45 PM||P – Positive Connecting Exercise|