You are hurting and scared that your relationship is on the brink of ending. It’s like you are on the edge of a cliff; you look out and just see ‘nothingness‘.
Stunned that things got so bad, you talked with friends and tried to calm that overwhelming panic that was creeping up inside, “It will get better.”
But it didn’t.
Things have become so rocky that getting help is now critical. But you are afraid it’s too late. Facing weeks or months of therapy feels like walking on a shaky bridge into that nothingness. You may be moving, but you are not sure you will arrive to where you need to be.
If you are going to do something, you need to know you will stand on solid ground at the end of it.
I get that. I work with couples on a daily basis who feel overwhelmed, exhausted, discouraged, and numb.
My Couples Intensives help couples who are ‘on the edge of the cliff’. For most couples, my Relationship Enhancement Workshops are ideal, but for some, a Couples Intensive may be the better fit. You might choose my Intensives if:
- your relationship can’t wait until the next Workshop
- you worry others in the community will recognize you
- scheduling is difficult and you need more flexibility
- you are in a same-sex relationship and privacy is important
- you want complete attention on you and your relationship
Based on Research
Couples Intensives combine the best from the best. Couples therapy expert Dr. John Gottman advocated the concept of longer therapy sessions (marathon therapy) to move a couple quicker than traditional shorter sessions. Another leading couples therapy expert, Dr. Sue Johnson, developed Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the protocols used in my Intensives. EFT has a 90% success rate in bring meaningful change in a relationship.
Scheduled to Make Life Easier
You are exhausted. Finding time between kids’ activities and work commitments is one more complication interfering with your relationship. Due to that, I schedule Couples Intensives any time between Thursday evenings and Sunday afternoons. Based on the level of Intensive you choose, we work together to find a schedule that will work for you.
A Foundation for you to Build On
Your relationship’s issues are different from anyone else’s, so each Intensive is different. Nonetheless, all Intensives have a foundation of expectations and ‘take-homes’ that you will experience.
In all Intensives, you will do the following:
- Diagnose your conflict pattern and the individual triggers you each have that keep that conflict continuing.
- Explore the messages and fears underneath the reactions you see
- Learn tools to connect with your partner and reduce conflicts
- Engage in structured conversations designed to bring you closer
- Practice communicating to get more connected and less distant
- Create a Commitment Plan you share with your partner based on what you learned about him/her
- Return home with tools and strategies to make your relationship stronger
I want you to succeed. To maintain your momentum, I provide the following with all Intensives, upon completion:
In all Intensives, you will receive the following:
- Workbook with additional blank Conversation pages and suggestions for connecting activities so you can continue your work at home
- Written summary of my observations and recommendations for you and/or your therapist (if you have one)
- Follow-up email from me to address questions or concerns
- Access to supplemental supports I provide (coaching, therapy sessions, etc.)
Choose the Couples Intensive that is Right for You
Based on your specific situation, finances, and schedule, there are three different Intensive options.
The Basic 9.5 Hours $1400
This is an evening plus full day option. This Intensive is a good base structure for improving your relationship. It includes all the foundational components listed above.
The Standard 14 Hours $1800
This is a 2 full-day option. Your Intensive includes all the foundation components plus the topics of forgiveness and sex.
We address the injuries and hurts that never seem to heal and keep resurfacing during conflicts. You learn how to make a successful apology and process an injury where there’s a possibility for forgiveness.
We review your sexual intimacy, noting how you get ‘stuck’ as a couple when you are trying to physically connect. You discuss your intimacy patterns and I make recommendations based on the issues.
The Deluxe 17 Hours $2200
This is the most comprehensive of all the Intensives offered. In addition to what is provided with the ‘Standard‘, you and your partner will each have an individual session prior to the Intensive and, as a couple, two 30-minute coaching sessions after the Intensive.
The individual session is your time for your story. I hear your voice as you describe your family, your fears, and your longings. If there is something that you don’t feel comfortable sharing in front of your partner, this is your opportunity. At the end of this session, I ask if there is anything to be kept private and I respect your request. These individual sessions give me greater access to your individual experience, allowing me to navigate your relationship issues more effectively and successfully.
The two coaching sessions are used like you use a personal trainer. When you get off track or need a review on a strategy, we schedule a coaching session and get you back on track. I want to work my way out of your life, so we keep it focused on how you are getting stuck and get you back to using the strategies you learned.
How do I schedule an Intensive?
Contact me and we will discuss your relationship and scheduling needs.
Where is the Couples Intensive held?
It is held at my therapy space located in my home at 55 Chesterfield Avenue, Springfield, Massachusetts. You may see general photos of the space here.
How much is the Couples Intensive?
The cost is dependent on which option you choose: The Basic is $1400; The Standard is $1800; The Deluxe is $2200.
Does my insurance pay for this?
No. Insurance does not pay for Intensives.
Is there a payment plan?
Yes. A 50% deposit is due at the time of scheduling your Intensive. You may then portion payments as you wish; the remainder of the balance is due the day before we meet.
Is there help after the Intensive?
Yes. The Deluxe Intensive includes two 30-minute coaching sessions with the fee. Any couple that completes any of my Intensives may schedule (for an additional cost) a 15 or 30-minute coaching session to maintain your momentum.
I know that being on the edge of the cliff is overwhelming.
I can help.