You are in pain and you want relief fast! It’s taken you so long to reach out; you are worried maybe too long. Conflicts used to happen every once in a while and it was an occasional bad day when they happened. Now, it’s a good day when an argument doesn’t happen.
The silence after an argument feels deadly, like a chasm widening between you two. You feel lonely in this relationship and just want to figure out how to express things so that you are finally heard and understood. Sometimes, this relationship may feel like just too much work and you worry that you will eventually end up alone.
Communication has become like a minefield; you never know when saying something is going to end in a blow up. Even when you think you are doing things ‘right’, you are still told it isn’t good enough. You feel stuck between a rock and a hard place and wonder if you will ever be ‘good enough’ for your partner.
How I help you
My treatment for couples in conflict has a few phases.
Phase 1. I give you quick relief and a very concrete set of communication tools with my “Hold Me Tight®” Communication Workshops. This foundation is to be used immediately to improve your communication and connection.
I understand you may be apprehensive about taking a workshop at the beginning of our work together. I have consistently seen through the years that this initial step shortens the time you are in therapy, reduces the financial cost and increases the long-term effectiveness of change. Please read about the Workshop and ask questions if you have apprehensions about this approach.
“My wife and I were at a standstill, plagued by negative behaviors, and after 2 days I really feel like we’re in a much better place, feeling connected and understood and heard, something we’ve lacked for a long time. We’ve been given the tools to reconcile and improve, which I’m thankful for. Now it’s on us to do the work.” — Mark, Hold Me Tight attendee, 2018
Optional Phase 2. The majority of my clients’ relationships are in such a better place after the Workshop, that weekly sessions are not needed. If follow-up sessions make sense, we meet together, strengthening the communication tools you have learned and your connection.
My goal is to have you self-sufficient as quickly as possible, so that you don’t require weekly long-term therapy.